Friday, September 23, 2005

A Part of Life

People say that "death is a part of life,"
Like it's supposed to make you feel better,
As if it heals the hurt and dries the tears!
People say that "death is a part of life,"
Like it's supposed to be easier to let go,
As if somehow you'll sleep better at night!

Strangely, it usually does.

Knowing that "death is a part of life"
Makes me feel a little better.
It does, at least, ease the hurt and slow the tears.
Knowing that "death is a part of life"
Makes me more able to let go
And I do sleep a little better most nights.

So, "death is a part of life"!
BUT, what then, is the dying?
Is that also a part of life?
What can be said then?

To see the strong, the vibrant, the independent
Become the weak, the dull, the dependent.
To see a person full of life, love, kindness and humor
Become just about lifeless, mean, moody and witless.
This is the dying!
This is the part that people forget to speak about!
This is the process that I'm still trying to deal with.

"Death is a part of life" but what is the dying?


Blogger Ms_Kenesha said...

That was good hon, is your grams still doing very badly?

11:19 AM  
Blogger Tonyette said...

Thanks, Missy! Yes, unfortunately she is. The ALS clinic has now given her an estimated time to be bedridden and an estimated time until death, basically!

12:19 PM  
Blogger Ms_Kenesha said...


12:38 PM  
Blogger Tray said...

This is a VERY powerful poem...

My mother died 3 months ago and watching her die broke my heart. I had all the same questions.

Peace, light and courage to you....

1:48 PM  
Blogger Tonyette said...

Thanks so much, Tray! It is MUCH appreciated. I am very sorry to hear about your mother!! This is for/about both my grandmas. My mom's mom died 10 years ago from breast cancer. I wondered the same things then that I do now, but the only difference is that then, I was 16! The grandma who now has ALS is my dad's mom. But, you and I will BOTH be strenghthened by Him!

1:54 PM  
Blogger tearsforwater said...

This is powerful Ton. I know what you mean because its hard to watch grandma "dying" but I do understand that once this process is over she will be with our Heavenly Dad.

4:09 PM  

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